Change your 50

We are each responsible for 50% of every relationship in our lives. That can be easy to dismiss when the person responsible for the other 50% is behaving in ways that are destructive or unhealthy - but the math is the math. When you are become willing to accept that fact, you will become empowered to transform every single relationship in your life.

How? How can the whole be transformed by the half? Well, have you ever made cookies? What happens if you change half the ingredients in the recipe?

Totally different cookie.

If you do the work to heal yourself, if you become accountable for what you are contributing to the unhealthy dynamics in your relationships, those relationships WILL change. Maybe the way you respond to stressors changes, resulting in less conflict. Perhaps you learn to communicate more effectively or set healthier boundaries. Maybe you take better care of yourself. Maybe you stop accepting the unacceptable.

Sometimes taking responsibility for your 50 inspires the other person to do their work leading to a happier relationship overall. Sometimes it helps you navigate the relationship in a way that’s healthier for you, even if the other person doesn’t change. Or maybe the relationship ends because your 50 no longer works with theirs.

Change your 50.