Puzzled

Every family is like a puzzle - a system of interconnecting, but distinct pieces. When one of the pieces of your family’s puzzle changes in addiction, all of the other pieces change in reaction to it. They have to, in order for the system to continue to function. Some people draw closer- they hover, enable, and attempt to control. Other people may pull away or shut down. Some people overperform. Some underperform.

Whatever the adaptive behavior, it represents that person’s best guess at how to survive the terrifying, traumatic experience of watching someone you love disappear into the disease of addiction.

Recovery works in much the same way. If the miracle happens and the person struggling with substance use disorder makes the decision to get sober, their piece will change again. Many families are not prepared for what that change actually entails, even when it has been their most fervent wish.

As your family embraces recovery, it will require everyone to learn new ways of being, and healthier way to communicate, connect, celebrate, and manage life stressors.

Even if your loved one is not yet ready to recover, you can begin to do your work today. The only willingness required is yours. Schedule a complimentary conversation to learn how Family Recovery Coaching can help.